Love Is All We Have

December 28th, 2007

Oh hi there! How nice to see you! I hope you had a good holiday. My goodness, there has been so much going on. We went up north to visit family, drove our asses up to Vermont, drove home in one of the worst, and I mean OH MY GOD, THE WORST, snowstorms I’ve ever driven through, and I mean really, at one moment — ironically when the snow cleared, and people started feeling safe enough to drive like assholes, of couse — I feared for our lives. Driving in near white-out conditions? Perfectly fine. Everyone drives reasonably well, then. Sleet? Freezing rain? Death on a stick.

Driving back to Boston from Vermont, a car missed an exit and thought he’d try to make it anyway by cutting the wheel, which only resulted in him slicing across six lanes of Rte. 93, spinning four times and COMING RIGHT AT US, only to spin one more time and land by the guardrail, facing us, yes, but on the side of the road and relatively unscathed.

I cried the rest of the way home, shivering in my coat, because Jesus, if we’d been there a few seconds earlier, that car would have been smashed directly against my husband and
GOODBYE, LIFE. IT WAS NICE TO KNOW YOU. This may be the first time that my Grinchy bladder that was born two sizes too small saved us. I’m telling you, the fact that I put the ‘pee’ in Sunapee is PRECISELY the reason we’re alive today. And did I mention it was my birthday, when all of this scariness went down? Nothing like spending your birthday alone in a strange city, followed by a near-death experience during a harrowing, snow-laden drive. (Seriously. Scariest drive EVAR.)

Really, it wasn’t a great birthday. Not that I have high expectations or actually care all that much — a Dec. 27 birth date will do that to you, and OH THE CHRISTMAS WRAPPING PAPER — but near-death experiences? SERIOUSLY, GOD? (Something tells me that maybe my birthday gift was surviving. And I’m okay with that. So ah, thank you, God.)

Anyway! Onward with the New Year’s meme, before I get too carried away with the ranting and the raving. Pilfered from Linda for the second year in a row. Unfortunately, 2007 was a bit of a sucktackular year, but according to my slightly off friend the astrology buff, this is Capricorn’s year, what with Jupiter heading into Capricorn and all. I did as I was instructed and took some time around the solstice to think about what I wanted and came up with … well, the basics, but mostly I just prayed that 2008 was better than 2007. I mean, it wasn’t the worst year, but it was pretty … well, it wasn’t the easiest, either.

1. What did you do in 2007 that you’d never done before?

Uhhh …. I got a fancy new title at work that involves “editor” which, sadly, is the most exciting thing that happened to me all year, and that wasn’t even that riveting.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?

Oh no. Apparently I was supposed to write a book this year? Oh har har HAR, that did not happen. And I don’t think I’ll be attempting any this year other than general improvements all around.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?

HO! So get this: the same two people who gave birth last year gave birth this year, too. My younger brother had a SECOND baby boy last week, and Adam’s brother had a second baby boy. And my friend Erica had the most spectacular baby girl ever.

4. Did anyone close to you die?

Thank God, no. I guess it wasn’t such a bad year after all.

5. What countries did you visit?

Yeah, ah, the U.S.

6. What would you like to have in 2008 that you lacked in 2007?

Too many things to really list, but mostly, I’d like more local friends and a little sense of perspective.

7. What dates from 2007 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

I don’t think many, to tell you the truth. I think they all kind of blended together, but I think that’s to be expected when it’s 80 degrees all the time.

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Losing almost 30 pounds. That was pretty freaking awesome, and thrills me to this day.

9. What was your biggest failure?

I was under a lot of stress this year, and frankly, I’m not proud of how I handled it — how I’m still handling it. In a few weeks, I’ll be able to tell you more, but I’ve been a bit of a wreck lately. Not depressed-wreck like I was before, but I’ve been stressy and frustrated. And if I had to guess, I haven’t been that enjoyable to be around. And I’m not happy about that — it’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy, you know? The more stressed I get, the less grace I have to handle it, which simply makes me MORE stressed and oh my, what a vicious cycle we have.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury?

I tore my plantar fascia while running.

11. What was the best thing you bought?

My little Nikon D40.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration?

Like last year, it has to go to my husband, who has kept both of us sane and, at times, laughing our asses off during some challenging moments. And the dog has been positively angelic. Who’s got a new Boston Celtics collar? WHO LOVES KEVIN GARNETT?

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed?

I think the near universal answer has to be the Spears family for this one, don’t you think? I mean, I’m not usually for blaming the parents when things go awry, but Jamie and Lynne, please: you gotta look at where things went wrong. You just … well, you have to.

14. Where did most of your money go?

Savings, because we like to live on the edge like that.

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Dude, putting on pants that were two sizes smaller was the greatest moment in recent memory. It’s a wonder I’m not going to work naked, such is the extent of my pride and joy. I’ve never been so excited by the sight of my thighs.

Also, I fell in love with running. Who gets excited about running? OH I DO. LET ME GO RUN.

16. What song will always remind you of 2007?

Sara Bareilles “Love Song” Oh, how I love the Sara Bareilles, I don’t care how poppy and fluffy she is. That voice! I love it!

17. Compared to this time last year, are you:
 a) happier or sadder? 
Sadder isn’t the right word; I know this time will pass. I’m perhaps more hopeful, but in many ways, more apprehensive. But I feel good about 2008. b) thinner or fatter? Oh, I am thinner. SO MUCH THINNER! I am healthy! Small! Happy!
c) richer or poorer?
Financially, we’re better off.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of?

Relaxing and letting go.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of?


20. How did you spend Christmas?

We spent the actual holiday with my family in Swampscott; part of the rest of it was spent in Burlington, Vermont.

21. Did you fall in love in 2007?

I fell more in love with my husband and dog, sure.

22. What was your favorite TV program?

Friday Night Lights, how I love you.

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?


24. What was the best book you read?

I read a lot this year, but you know what? The new Harry Potter thrilled me. Mock me if you will, I can take it.

25. What was your greatest musical discovery?

Jesca Hoop. And I loved Sara Bareilles, which surprised me, for she’s not the kind of thing I’m usually into.

26. What did you want and get?

Plenty of new music. A new camera. And OH YES, a new body.

27. What did you want and not get?

Lots of really big important things, but at the end of the day, I have a great husband, a sweet dog and a family I adore.

28. What was your favorite film of this year?

I can’t remember the last movie I saw.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

See above: I drove through a snowstorm and cried. I turned 32.

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?

More friends who live within driving distance. It’s tough when most of them are very, very far away.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2007?

Jeans that fit.

32. What kept you sane?

Adam. My family. My friends. Lawyerish.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Uh … my crush on Milo Ventimiglia remains steadfast.

34. What political issue stirred you the most?

Oh forget it.

35. Who did you miss?

My family. Erica — having one of your best friends go through a major milestone away from you sucks, it really does. Friends.

36. Who was the best new person you met?

Tammie. I need to see her again now that we’re back.

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2007.
Everything is temporary. Sometimes that’s good, and sometimes it’s bad, but it’s a fact.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
LAME. Oh the lameness. But look! “Everything is temporary, anyway … ” Edie Brickell, “Circle”
I can’t believe I just wrote a SONG LYRIC. Color me emo in black eyeliner.

Feel free to meme von memerton this. Linda’s keeping tabs on the participants, so check back there for links.

*Jesca Hoop.

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  • 1. Leah  |  December 28th, 2007 at 8:04 pm

    Dude, thanks for not dying. It’ll give us a chance to become “friends” in 2008, since we both seem to need more than we currently have.

  • 2. TwoBusy  |  December 28th, 2007 at 8:35 pm

    Wow, that’s… uh… yeah, I guess the almost-dying thing would qualify this as a legitimately sucky birthday. Sorry.

    Hope the next year brings you less stress, more friends, and at least one fewer opportunity to go “splat.”

  • 3. Mauigirl52  |  December 28th, 2007 at 9:18 pm

    So glad you made it home alive! We once drove back from Virginia to New Jersey in the midst of a blizzard. Not fun. So I know what you must have felt like.

    Happy belated birthday!

  • 4. Lawyerish  |  December 29th, 2007 at 2:08 pm

    OMG. Thank God you made it! Just reading about the near-disaster on the road made my feet sweat. And thank God you’re BACK. We must discuss your trip ASAP.

    And you know you keep me sane, too! Imagine if my lunacy went unchecked… xoxo

  • 5. Jakki  |  December 29th, 2007 at 7:59 pm

    As someone who also shares a Dec 27th bday…they usually do suck….this year though a friend told me that if I truly felt that way, celebrate it at a different time…hummm I dunno about all that but I do agree that the best gift ever was your life. Happy New Year..

  • 6. Suebob  |  December 29th, 2007 at 9:01 pm

    Happy birthday. I am glad you are alive.

    I stole your meme and will probably bore the hell out of people with it.

  • 7. amber  |  December 31st, 2007 at 10:04 am

    Holy crap, MY birthday is the 27th of December too, and I hear you about the whole suckfest part of it. Happy Be-lated Birthday, Jonniker!

  • 8. metalia  |  December 31st, 2007 at 8:29 pm

    Happy belated birthday, and Happy New Year to you! (I’m also strangely into the Sara Bareilles song of late, by the way. It’s also not something I’d usually be into.)

  • 9. erica  |  January 1st, 2008 at 5:08 pm

    I miss you dood! And Olivia is excited to meet you!

  • 10. Lara  |  January 2nd, 2008 at 9:07 am

    YIKES on the near death experience! And happy late birthday!

  • 11. She Likes Purple  |  January 3rd, 2008 at 10:34 pm

    Happy belated birthday. The year for us Capricorns, huh? I think I needed to hear that so thank you. And my birthday JUST ENDED (like ten minutes ago, sooooo saaaad).

    I’m thinking of you and hoping that 2008 is just everything it should be and that Milo pays us both a visit. And tells us that he’d never fall for an 18 year old. THAT’S NOT HIS STYLE.

  • 12. Jessica  |  January 14th, 2008 at 4:56 pm

    I can’t believe I am admitting this in a public forum, but I went to high school with Kevin Garnett. Glad to see he’s grown up. A LOT.

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