Comments on: Cuts You Up

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 18 Nov 2008 19:13:59 +0000

women\’s casual shoes…

It really is going to be a long 2008, isn’t it?…

By: Anonymous New York

Anonymous New York — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 18:41:34 +0000

Hi! Congrats on the baby! I had to comment to note that as disturbing as a footling breech sounded, it did not skeeve me out as much as your wrist-cutting explanation. I’m queasy!! Now you’ll have to go excuse me as I go buy wrist bands for every day use, in coordinating colors. (Should they match my shoes?)

By: MsPrufrock

MsPrufrock — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 11:03:22 +0000

As I am apparently the disagreeable sort, I will have to respectfully disagree about the whole “nobody told me it would be this bad” thing. I think plenty of people told me in a joking, sing-song voice that I would get very little sleep or fumble around in a fugue of new motherness. It was all so casual, that when I was slapped in the face with a host of newborn-related difficulty, I wondered why no one ever discussed these issues seriously.

I’m an anxious person, so in no way would I have preferred people to be all doom and gloom with me either because I would have panicked and regretted getting pregnant in the first place. I just think it would have been a lot more helpful to be simple and straightforward by saying that though difficult times were inevitably ahead, they are temporary and surmountable. From friends and family members, I would have appreciated an invitation to an open, honest, feel-free-to-snot-all-over-my-shoulder-with-your-misery discussion if need be.

So yes, there is bad stuff. Plenty of it. My mantra was “This is temporary, it will pass”, which, trite as it may be, got me through the icky things. Of course there is the immeasurable good – looking at this tiny person you have created and nurtured, watching them grow, learn, and develop. It is unparalleled in its magnificence, even when they are only 26 months old and tell you “You do what I want Mum”.

You have so much to look forward to. I’m always excited for every new mother knowing what they are about to discover.

By: Rebecca (Bearca)

Rebecca (Bearca) — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 12:51:48 +0000

The wrist thing is funny. I have an irrational travel-related fear – that I will fall through the crack between the jetway and the airplane while boarding. I don’t know why, and it doesn’t make sense, but I am totally obsessed with the possibility. Which is weird, I know, but I’m just saying it because we all have Our Things!

Anyway, re: motherhood… yes, there are parts that suck, but there are so many awesome parts. You will be great. And just remember, everything that sucks is TOTALLY TEMPORARY. Sleep deprivation? TEMPORARY. Feeling like you don’t know what you are doing? TEMPORARY. And the things that don’t suck just keep coming, completely outweighing everything else.

By: Kristin H

Kristin H — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 09:19:02 +0000

Hi, late to the party again. I have to agree with whoever noted that while yes, your life obv. changes in many ways, I was so happy after I had my first that in some ways it did not change at all. I felt like going around shouting Look at ME, people! I still read every single night! I still run daily! I’m COPING. Give me a cookie, please.

Also (as you know) babies are hard YET wonderful, hence the reason that people keep having more. It will be great, and any potential wrist-strapping is just a wee moment (albeit possibly horrifying for you) in the grand scheme of it all, and that’s only IF you have a c/s. Can I just take a moment here to recommend getting a doula? She made a world of difference for my 2nd birth and I’d love to tell you oodles more about her if you are interested.

Love me some pot roast. Now off to read today’s entry. : )

By: page

page — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:59:28 +0000

Now that theme song is stuck in my head, too.

I tell you, I have never been able to sleep with my ankles exposed, or to deal with people touching them at all. I think there was some random Magnum PI where a ballerina had her achilles tendon cut that did it originally, then Pet Sematary sealed the deal. And NOW I have the image of the footling breech and it’s tiny EXPOSED ANKLE stuck in my head. UGH, no. I second the idea of getting Wonder Woman wristbands. i bet someone has them (perfect time of year to look).

SO excited for you! And go you on the sandwich and ham!

By: the new girl

the new girl — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:33:46 +0000

Erm…I meant to say that she was moving her hands to a SONG that I was SINGING. She’s been moving her hands for AGES now. She’s 16 months old. She a hand-moving PRO.

*hem*

By: the new girl

the new girl — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 22:31:42 +0000

Oh, man. I don’t know. Assvice is..assy. But I know that it’s hard and tough and I didn’t expect it to be a walk in the park. The only thing that surprised me in a negative way was the friction that it caused with my spouse. I’ve known him forever, though, and so it was never anything MAJOR, just sleep dep mixed with hormone cocktail. mmm.

But the good stuff? I WAY, WAY underestimated that, if you can believe it. There’s so, So SO much love. Eating up that baby love. I was looking at her just today in the stroller and watched her move her hands and for the bazillionth time since I had her, I’m like, ‘She’s MINE. That’s MY BABY right there.’ And I shook my head with wonder, overwhelmed by the cuteness and the feeling of being home, even on a walk.
xo

By: Mandee

Mandee — Tue, 30 Sep 2008 19:44:07 +0000

I don’t remember my sister mentioning her wrists being strapped down–but that could be because the sperm donor was so f’d up, HE kept breaking the sterile field. They were probably hoping she might wise up and knock him out. I don’t recommend using that as your distraction, though. Wrist bands sound much better.

I love pot roast–total comfort food for me as it was literally one of three things that my mother used to cook. I cook it for one pretty often. I just cut the roast up into three or four different mini-roasts and freeze the ones I don’t cook. It’s so worth it to get that Sunday afternoon smell in the house.

By: H

Tue, 30 Sep 2008 17:22:34 +0000

I had one c-section and don’t remember my arms being strapped down, but then again, I barely remember what I did last week and the c-section was over 20 years ago. If I had been aware of it, however, I would have wanted them strapped down because I am one of those people afraid I will go out of my mind and do exactly what they tell me not to do with my hands. Sort of like standing in the vicinity of the edge of a mountain, or whatever, and fearing I will lose control and step off the edge.

I can’t stand 2 1/2 Men because of Charlie Sheen. He’s always got a stupid smirk on his face, like he thinks he’s simply hilarious. He ruins the whole show for me.

You’ll be a great mom — boy or girl.