Comments on: I Started Something I Couldn’t Finish

By: BIRD25DALE

BIRD25DALE — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 19:18:54 +0000

Some time before, I needed to buy a building for my firm but I didn't have enough cash and could not buy something. Thank God my brother adviced to try to get the business loans from trustworthy bank. So, I did so and used to be satisfied with my auto loan.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:42:53 +0000

I love the “life plans” comment, too!

By: Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:47:52 +0000

You know, at the beginning of this post, I had something witty to say about celebrity deaths and OxyClean or Britney Spears’ twitter account or something, but then I got to the bottom and now all I can think is: GOODNESS, that’s an adorable baby!!

By: Carmen

Carmen — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 04:48:58 +0000

Ah, so much of this I could have written in relation to me. I also waited until I was 33 to have my first child (I had my second 2 days before my 36th birthday). We waited, first because we were both in school getting our PhDs which is stressful and excruciatingly time-consuming (12 hr days, 6 days/wk) and then afterward because we had the amazing opportunity to work in Europe for 3 years in a country with 7 weeks vacation every year. We travelled the world while we had the chance, then came home to Canada and settled in our jobs & new life before having kids.

I’m extremely lucky to live in a country where we have a paid one year maternity/parental leave. For 27 of those 52 weeks, I get 95% salary thanks to the university that I work at; for the remainder of the year, I get ~55% of my salary through employment insurance and the federal government. My job is secure and will be waiting when I return. I feel so thankful that I get to spend that first year with my kids without having to worry about heading back to work after a teensy tiny number of weeks.

I’m at home now with my 9 month old, Lexi, and time is flying by – I can understand the desire to have just one more. Even with The Screaming and The Not-Sleeping and The Whining and The Potty Training. But sadly, I think now that I’m almost 37, we’re done. But having kids was the absolute most wonderful mind-bendingly awesome thing we’ve ever done. And ever will do.

By: Stinkypaw

Stinkypaw — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 02:58:30 +0000

I hadn’t been here in ages, so imagine my surprise when I read and saw your beautiful daughter! Congrats!

By: Kristabella

Kristabella — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:25:16 +0000

Man, she is just so adorable! That helps when you have the colic and the screaming!

When I was growing up, back in college and my 20s, I was so career oriented. I wanted to be the first woman PR Director in the NFL. I was going to bust down glass ceilings. And then I got burn out. And as I got older, all I want now is to be a stay at home mom. But seeing as I’m currently single with two cats, that doesn’t seem like much of a reality.

But the psychic in NOLA told me I’m going to have a good marriage, within 2 years, and will have 2 kids. I’m also supposed to meet this person in the next 2 months.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:42:14 +0000

It’s interesting to hear that what you thought you would do after baby (going back to work) completely changed. As someone who’s pregnant and thinking through all the possibilities – full time, part time, no (work) time — it hardly seems fair that we have to make a decision about a situation for which we have no frame of reference. Who knows where our mindset will be once we’re In It?? And yet…I’ve decided to tell myself that whatever I think I’ll want will end up being completely opposite of what I actually want once I experience the day-to-day of having a child.

By: jen from boston

jen from boston — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 20:01:58 +0000

“Ah, life plans. The most useless pieces of shit imaginable, but not in a bad way. ”

Love this.

By: Mauigirl

Mauigirl — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 18:13:37 +0000

Great update as always, and I’m so glad you are staying home with Sam for now. There is plenty of time to work, only one babyhood. She’s adorable!

Love the Epilady story, I’m snorting here at my desk…

By: metalia

metalia — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 13:07:19 +0000

So, this: “Ah, life plans. The most useless pieces of shit imaginable, but not in a bad way.” needs to be on a shirt. Or a bumper sticker. Or…or..I don’t know, SOMEplace. I, too, was all “I will NEVER marry/have kids young! What about my plans to backpack through Europe, write my memoirs, and become a successful patent attorney?!” And…here we are. I’ve never seen any part of Europe that isn’t prominently featured on The Spectacular Depression-Inducing School Holocaust Trip of Spectacularly Depressing Sadness, my only “writing” is blog-related, and my law school aspirations are…well, wherever Baby Bubbles has gone off to, And you know what? I swear to you, I regret no aspect of the course my life has taken, and I couldn’t be happier with my lot. And there’s something deeply satisfying in realizing your life is in no way what you expected it to be, but is still, in its own way, perfect.