Burning Up

May 27th, 2010

So! Facebook. Is it not the worst thing to hit the internet? Am I not at the cutting edge of internet wisdom with that statement? God. The flame wars! The crazy political posts! The parents who post pictures of their children’s poop and worse, photos of their children on the toilet whilst potty training! UNSEE UNSEE UNSEE. And, just yesterday, some TOTALLY CRAZYPANTS comments from a woman (an adult who, as far as I know, is not special needs in any way) I know only tangentially, but am mysteriously friends with on Facebook involving … the death of her goldfish.

This woman, oh my lands, people, described how she “knew true love” because of this goldfish (named, appropriately, Girlfishi) and how an unfortunate Sophie’s Choice-like scenario (YES, REALLY, SHE SAID THOSE EXACT WORDS), left her having to move the goldfish from one apartment to another, causing Girlfishi horrible trauma and leading to her untimely death. She then left an indecipherable rant as her status about how some people aren’t properly respecting her mourning and how she’s learned who her real friends are by how they respond to the death of her, ahem, GOLDFISH, and how Girlfishi was a special fish and she is beyond heartbroken and … well, folks, I’ve got nothing here.

Wait, that’s not true, because I think I’ve got a solid OH COME ON, LADY, in there somewhere. Also, I think what freaked me out more was all the commenters who leaped to her defense on the mourning post with how deeply sorry they were for her loss and how losing a pet IS like losing a child, yes, yes, it is, and all I keep thinking is, SERIOUSLY, A GOLDFISH. I mean, for some people losing a pet is like losing a child, yes, and I can go with it to a point, but no, I’m sorry, you can’t compare your goldfish to my kid. It just won’t work.

No disrespect to goldfish everywhere.

In other news, and this is going to sound very spoiled, and believe me, I know, I KNOW! I was totally spoiled, I KNOW!, but we used to live two minutes away from Adam’s office — for Sam’s whole life — and then (THEN!) we had two glorious months while Adam was between jobs, and honestly, I got used to having him around. He was home for dinner every night, save for the days when he traveled, because even if he had to work late, he came home to eat before heading back in. And in those two months, he was home every day. Every day! And now he’s got a commute, and working late and missing Sam in the evenings and it’s … it’s very sad. We miss him, although I also know that he’s enjoying what he’s doing. (He likes to work. He always has.)

It is also turning me into a bit of a crazy housewife, and I’m not proud of it. The combination of moving, (my) work deadlines, instant houseguests and suddenly being home alone for 14 hours a day has left me feeling completely overwhelmed with the status of how MESSY everything is and how! much! there is to be done and some nights he gets home and I’m standing there with my hand on my hip all but SCREECHING about all the shit that has to be done! And it’s GARBAGE NIGHT and while yes, I realize you just walked in the door, WE HAVE A LOT OF GARBAGE. HOP TO IT. I HAVE TO GO GET SOME WORK DONE. DO YOU KNOW WHAT MY DAY IS LIKE AROUND HERE?

My face is all contorted and wrinkled in disgust just reading that, but there you have it. Last night I poured a rare glass of wine (booze used to be a lot more fun; now it just makes me want to go to sleep IMMEDIATELY after the first sip), plopped myself in front of Glee and told myself to get over it, because really, Jonna, REALLY. The next thing you know I’m going to be getting myself into a state over ring around the collar and dishpan hands! How WILL we ever go on?

Speaking of Glee, can I admit to you all what happens when Jesse St. James appears on the screen? My heart beats faster. No exaggeration. Gross, right? Gross. I’m THIRTY FOUR YEARS OLD. And also? Just now I found myself lost in a comment thread of teenagers who really believe Jesse is a real person, and they’re fighting about it. Like, seriously fighting about it. I witnessed apologies to the group and some kind of crazy statement about how they probably HURT JESSE’S FEELINGS and sorry, Jesse! I LUV U. And they were serious. Yes, very serious.

I don’t see me and my quickening heartbeat too much above that, to be honest. I mean, a) it’s a fictional character, eclipsed only by the crush I had on Fred from Scooby Doo. Yes, a CARTOON; b) the kid is like, 22 in real life, IF THAT; c) HE IS ALSO GAY, not that it matters, because let’s be honest, an unavailable cougar with a kid is hardly his ideal mate, even if he were straight as an arrow.

How many times am I going to talk about this? MANY, IT SEEMS. Well, I would, if the season wasn’t ending. Boy, you’re all glad about that. I’m one step away from talking about how a goldfish taught me love.

Speaking of seasons ending, I still haven’t seen the Lost finale. I KNOW.

Happy weekend! Ooh! Memorial Day!

*Madonna. And also, um, Jesse St. James in the Very Special Madonna Episode. What?

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26 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Accidents  |  May 27th, 2010 at 10:25 pm

    I can’t touch Girlfishi because, well, I think you have it covered.

    I was a loyal Lost fan for years, and I missed the finale because my car broke down out of state. And I was kind of like, whatever. And you’d think it would be because, “Hey! Major crisis! Who cares about Lost?” but, you know, if I had missed the finale because of anything else? Would have probably felt the same way. My heart wasn’t in it.

    Then I decided to catch up via the old web, and fell asleep during it.

    Twice.

  • 2. Lise  |  May 27th, 2010 at 10:59 pm

    That’s really sad that you’re missing your husband. Do you know what you could replace him with, though? A goldfish! Or a worm! Or a bug! Those are all about the same thing as a human being, right?

    (And I would unfriend or hide that crazy-ass friend.)

  • 3. Marie Green  |  May 28th, 2010 at 12:09 am

    I enjoy facebook quite a bit, but I avoid Drama People like nothing else. If they have a lot of drama, I hide them from my feed. It’s like de-friending them, only they don’t know it! So then my news feed is full of all the fun and funny and entertaining and nice people and all the crazy ones are playing out their dramas whilst I am blissfully unaware.

    (See also: hiding Farmville and the like.)

    I’ve seen all of LOST except for the last 8 episodes or so. I need/want to catch up, now that it’s all over, but I stopped watching earlier this season because it had gotten so… unbelievable. Like, I could no longer BELIEVE in what was happening. Too sci-fi, I guess. So if I go back and watch those last 8 episodes, I’ll probably feel the same way. AND YET, I want to watch.

  • 4. JCF  |  May 28th, 2010 at 12:32 am

    It makes me feel a little bit better to hear that other people shriek at their husbands at the end of a long day too. I hope it makes you feel just the teeniest bit better if lots of people tell you you’re not the only one.

    My husband has a crazy schedule right now (and I know is under a ton of pressure) and the other day (granted, it was after he responded badly to my desperate plea for a bit of help during a potty training disaster while he was trying to work from home), I freaked out on him about how he has no idea what it is like to be 7 months pregnant and have two toddlers, blah, blah, blah…it was ugly. I hated myself for it. I’m pretty sure he felt like dirt too, for his initial response, but still…

  • 5. shelly  |  May 28th, 2010 at 7:32 am

    Oh, don’t even get me started on inappropriate reactions to Glee. My obsession is Matthew Morrison aka Mr. Schue. OMFG. I put his picture up at work as my desktop

  • 6. shelly  |  May 28th, 2010 at 7:38 am

    Let’s try this again.

    I put Matthew Morrison’s picture as my desktop WALLPAPER!! I am 44 freaking years old!! I am MARRIED…..HAPPILY……and have no illusions that I’d ever meet this man, but OMG….can we say HHHAAAWWWWWTTTTT?????

    I’ve been desperately trying to find the full studio version of him singing “Tell Me Something Good” (did you SEE the preview of next week??? HUH?—DID YOU?)but since the show won’t air til next week…….it’s not available. I’m CRAZY with my MM obsession. If anyone missed the preview, go to my post and I’ve got a link to it. Also, has anyone ELSE seen what he’s packing under his teacher duds? Again, links on my last post.

    It’s bizarre. Somehow the producers put some subliminal message in the show to make us all addicted. I am acting like a 12year old girl over Justin Bieber or something.

    Desktop wallpaper….what is wrong with me?

  • 7. claire  |  May 28th, 2010 at 10:04 am

    I just love this whole post, except the missing your husband part… that sucks.
    The sad part is, I know someone very much like your Girlfishi friend and I try very hard to ignore most of her FB posts, because… ugh. I just can’t take it. She’s 35 and acts like one of the Glee fan-girl forum people with the celebrity crushes and talking about her cats. She posts things about them using all of her little nicknames for them. I swear she called one of them Dr. Sexywhiskers the other day. I have no words.

  • 8. Lynn  |  May 28th, 2010 at 10:07 am

    I admit to the Jesse crush. Nothing has ever made me feel older or grosser. And yet. SO adorable.

  • 9. Amie  |  May 28th, 2010 at 10:40 am

    My husband has been working 6am to 10pm/midnightish all week. We haven’t had a normal conversation besides a grunt goodbye in the morning and a grunt welcome home. Did I mention he was out of town last week and I was out of town last weekend? I haven’t had a normal conversation with him since May 15th! Two weeks!

    have you read the new Sookie book 10?? I’m 80% through it and a little weirded out that Eric is calling Sookie his wife. It’s good though.

    I just got season 2 True Blood on DVD and I’m trying to wait to watch it until my friend can come over and enjoy it with me. We don’t have HBO so it’s a whole new season to us!

  • 10. Penny  |  May 28th, 2010 at 11:06 am

    In an office I used to work at, a coworker had an unusual affection for goldfish as well. One day she was describing to me how, essentially, her beloved goldfish got too big to support itself (which is just the most idiotic evolutionary characteristic I have to say) and died, and even though this happened years ago she STILL got teary-eyed about it, and here is where I made my mistake: I laughed at her story. It was just a little chuckle, about the part where he grew too big, and that was IT. I was totally fired a few weeks later and I think the goldfish chuckle had something to do with it.

    True story.

    Goldfish lovers are freaks.

  • 11. Shelly  |  May 28th, 2010 at 11:28 am

    OMG, people and their pets. Some people take it WAY too far. Girlfishi, Dr. Sexywhiskers (which frightens me more than a little), and Penny’s story are classic examples. Wow. Just wow.

  • 12. Marieka  |  May 28th, 2010 at 11:37 am

    I’m an animal lover, but the woman’s reaction to her goldfish’s death seems way overblown to me. Cat, OK. Dog, OK. Goldfish, no. WTH?

    I’m with Shelly. Matthew Morrison has a very disturbing effect on me. I’m not at the wallpaper stage yet, but hmmm, not a bad idea.

  • 13. jonniker  |  May 28th, 2010 at 12:07 pm

    Amie: I have it, but I haven’t read it yet — I JUST picked it up yesterday. Right now I’m reading The Hunger Games book 2 (Catching Fire) and then I have The Red Tent for the Book Lushes (OMFG) and THEN I have The Graveyard Book, which I started, but did not finish and THEN I have The Girl Who Kicked The Hornet’s Nest and THEN AND ONLY THEN will I let myself read Sookie. I’m saving it, you see.

    Marieka: Dude, I’m with you. I should have said please, don’t even compare your goldfish to my DOG who has a PERSONALITY and KNOWS HER NAME.

  • 14. Swistle  |  May 28th, 2010 at 12:14 pm

    OMG did I ever enjoy your story of the Goldfish saga. OH! So funny! I love it. I had a friend who lost a pet ferret and composed a PAGE-LONG EULOGY on Facebook, complete with “over the rainbow” and “when we meet again” and “a better place,” and—AND—a head-and-shoulders shot of the ferret, with a black border. And I am VERY FOND of my pet cats, and I do indeed cry when they die, but, um.

  • 15. jonniker  |  May 28th, 2010 at 12:30 pm

    Swis, I used to have a client who worked at a Very Large Home Shopping Network in PR who had ferrets. And she DRESSED THEM UP IN COSTUMES and had pictures of them on her desk at work. And in client meetings, she would tell stories of the ferret hijinks she witnessed at home and about their favorite hats! And how they love to wear pants!

  • 16. Jen  |  May 28th, 2010 at 1:03 pm

    The Lost finale is still sitting on my DVR, just waiting to be watched. I need a huge chunk of time to commit to that puppy and lord only knows when that’s going to happen!

    I’m in the same situation with my husband and it’s tough. It makes for very long days – tremendously long when he travels and there’s no relief at 6:30. And just this morning I said to him, “How am I supposed to clean the shower with a baby around???” It just doesn’t happen. So he took a vacation day today, took Avery out to run errands with him, and I CLEANED. I cleaned like this house has not been cleaned since before I was pregnant. Ahhhh.

    The goldfish thing is just…special. Are you sure it wasn’t a joke? It doesn’t sound like it, but I kind of wish it was because a GOLDFISH? Really??

  • 17. Danell  |  May 28th, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    Even being in my line of work, I can’t quite wrap my head around comparing a goldfish to a child. Not even close. *twitch twitch*

    I’m a little envious of everyone with a thing for any of the TV character’s you’re talking about…I mean, MY crush is still on freakin’ EDWARD. You know, from the stupid Twilight series? Oh my god, I can’t even stand myself.

  • 18. Steph  |  May 29th, 2010 at 12:37 pm

    I am an animal lover and when I lost many animals in a fire I was devastated, but none of them were goldfish and really the massive devastation was because I lost my 15 year old dog not because of the rest of them. (Please don’t tell anyone that because animal people will stalk and kill you if you say things like I just did).

    I can not imagine getting worked up over a $.25 goldfish. Seriously? That’s beyond bizarre and a little un-nerving. I think I would have to de-friend her because it’s people like her who flip their lids and start breaking in to houses to have secret relationships with the neighbor’s Clown Fish.

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  • 20. SwingCheese  |  May 29th, 2010 at 9:38 pm

    I can relate to the being at home 14 hrs. a day, though it is a bit reversed, insofar as I am the one working full time at the moment. I/we had a really bad week recently in which I swear I was practically screeching about the kitchen within 30 seconds of walking in the door. As in “I just dealt with teenagers at the end of the school year for the last 8 hours, you were home with our delightful child, why can’t I see the countertop for the dishes and how have you managed to empty the cupboard of clean dishes without beginning a new load?” And his response (mind you, he was actually in the bathroom when I walked through the door, so we were yelling between two rooms): “Our delightful child just threw up three times, hence the huge stain in the living room (which I hadn’t noticed, incidentally), and before that was cranky and irritable all day and wanted to be held constantly, and it was either that or listen to him howl”….and, well, it just went on from there. I’m also not proud of it. I feel like a huge NAG, and, well, hats off to you, b/c after about 10 weeks of downtime and isolation with my child (aka, summer break), I’m DONE. I’m a better parent if I can get out of the house and work. But it sometimes makes me a less than understanding wife. It’s a delicate balance.

    P.S. I’ve sobbed over losing cats, b/c they are like furry family members for me, but even as an overly sensitive child, I don’t think I ever cried at the loss of a fish. And I’ve lost, like, 10 fish over the course of my life.

  • 21. Kirsty  |  May 30th, 2010 at 6:59 pm

    I guess I’m some kind of Euro-freak (a Brit living in the south of France and who, as you’ll see, loves brackets) because I’ve never seen Glee (don’t know what it is) but I can confess (and regularly do on my blog, given that virtually no one reads it) to having a huge crush on Zac Efron – not the HSM version (though he’s pretty cute in that too), but the Hairspray version. Oh Lordy, he’s soooo cute! And yes, I’m just about old enough to be his mother, but not quite, unless I was ridiculously young when he was born. BUT I DON’T CARE. He is sooo sexy…
    As for the goldfish thing, yeah, I can imagine being a bit sad, but comparing it to the loss of a child – that’s deranged (and I speak as someone who has already lost a child, though never admittedly a goldfish). And yeah, I’ll be heartbroken when my cat dies, but I’m pretty sure I’ll get over it without flooding FB with eulogies…
    And, finally, just to put a nice downer on all this, I truly feel your pain about your husband not being around much – me and mine have just separated and I’m now responsible for the whole shebang – full-time work, mothering, housewifey stuff (though I’m crap at that), cooking, shopping… And it’s KILLING me…

  • 22. Christine  |  May 31st, 2010 at 8:29 am

    I get being sad about a lost pet, and lord knows I have poured a thousand dollars into getting my cat healthy, but really, how long could she have expected Goldfishi to live? I mean as far as I know they aren’t known for their longevity, although maybe I just sucked as a caretaker at 8, because I don’t think mine made it past a year.

    And yeah, I will be heartbroken when my cat dies, but well I know people who have lost children and the two don’t compare. And I am pretty close to a crazy cat lady.

    Sorry about the Adam thing with the commute. I’m sure as you guys get into more of a routine things will get better.

  • 23. Anon for Today  |  June 1st, 2010 at 10:03 am

    OMG, I literally snorted tea through my nose when I read that you know someone who DRESSED HER FERETS in costumes! Who does that?

    A very close friend of mine (someone I’ve shared your blog with, hence the anon tag) went a little batty when her cat died many years ago. She and her husband buried him in a pet cemetary complete with satin lined casket, photos of him with his human parents and his favourite toys. It took everything in me not to lose it when she compared it to losing my aunt a couple of months earlier. FWIW, once she lost an actual person she apologised and said that while losing the cat had been very, very difficult for her, she had no idea how much more deeply I was suffering.

    But seriously — all this fuss over a goldfish? The girl is clearly nuts.

  • 24. jenfromboston  |  June 1st, 2010 at 1:39 pm

    My cousin’s cat just died – I think her parents had to make the decision to put the cat down. My cousin, who is 20 years old, went thru mult. FB posts (at least 5?) to talk about her grief over it (to her credit – they weren’t long, and she didn’t call out ppl for not “being there” for her). Anyway, I believe the word “devasted” was used. All I could think if was – and granted I get losing a pet is sad and sucky, that she’s lead a pretty charmed/sheltered life if this was her baramoeter of being “devasted”.

    The goldfish story though- wow, that is just unbelievable.

  • 25. Adlib  |  July 14th, 2010 at 11:13 am

    A huge sigh of relief (I think that’s what it was) went through me when you all admitted to your crushes because I feel just as old and gross because I have a crush on Taylor Lautner (Jacob in the Twilight movies). He’s so hot, but good Lord, I read that he’s 18! I’m 30, and that makes me feel so weird, but not as much any more now that you guys are in the same boat. The weirdest thing is that my husband knows about it, and he won’t shut up about it either. He even bought me a poster. (Now I really am embarrassed, but it wasn’t even my idea!) I feel like such a perv or something.

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