Separate the People
January 11th, 2011
So! That’s out, and I feel sort of panicky and superstitious about it, like I have just jinxed myself. And … well, that’s sort of stupid, because it’s not like by SAYING anything I can MAKE IT HAPPEN. If that were true, I would have won the damn Mega Millions, and I’d be writing this from my hut in Fiji while my team of nannies frolics with Sam on the beach.
Meanwhile, I’m almost ten weeks — due August 15, specifically — and what’s crazy is that it does not add up with my own calculations AT ALL, but I’m guessing that’s why the whole thing was a bit of a surprise anyway. What is also crazy is that I am not really all that nauseated. I have moments, certainly, where the idea of certain foods is so repulsive that I’ll do anything to avoid looking at them, much less eating them, but — oh, I can barely type this aloud — I have not thrown up. Not once. Longtime readers will remember that while pregnant with Sam, I threw up no fewer than ten times A DAY.
I’m craving things instead of merely avoiding them. I’m eating things like CHICKEN. I handle raw meat! I cook! I eat, uh, things other than chicken nuggets. It’s like someone else’s pregnancy, seriously.
But make no mistake, I’m pregnant. I feel like someone has taken a sander to my boobs, and I am so tired. So, so tired. And yet, so unable to sleep. And peeing every fifteen seconds. And if someone shares the WRONG RECIPE in Google Reader, I not only feel like barfing in that moment, but I consider whether the friendship was ever worth anything in the first place, because how could they do this to me? Do they hate me? Is that recipe for some sort of grok-inspired food PERSONAL? (Am I using grok correctly here? What IS that, and why is my entire Google contact list asking themselves “What would grok eat?” Is grok some kind of MEAN DIET ALIEN?)
It’s a weird thing, feeling like your body is going to do one thing, and have it do something completely different. It makes me second-guess my entire first pregnancy. Was the sickness all in my head? Was I focusing on it too much? Was it … my fault? I was working from home, with zero social interaction, where as now I’m running around like a maniac, meeting with friends, taking a toddler here and there, sitting down for maaaaybe five minutes in an entire day. Was I just not … busy enough?
I know all these things are irrational and wrong — certainly if my friend or my sister were as sick as I was, and then the next time, just … wasn’t, I wouldn’t assume such ridiculous things. I’m not sure why we’re so hard on ourselves for something that really has nothing to do with much other than, well, that’s just the way it is. Maybe my body’s used to it. Maybe it’s a boy. Maybe it’s just dumb-ass luck.
(By the way, not one person has suggested I’m having a girl. NOT ONE. Well, except for me, because I can only picture myself with a girl, obviously, because that’s what I have. And we all know that if I have another girl, it will be exactly like Sam, yes? Because all two kids are precisely alike! That’s how it works!)
(And wait, okay, there is one. I see you, Nic!)
And finally, the hopefully big sister to-be. Please tell me that you, too, are dead from the cute, not to mention the talent of the photographer. (Boston people should really call her, because she’s amazing. And also my friend.)
(Click to embiggen.)
Happy Wednesday!
*Mates of State
Entry Filed under: Beeber McSteebs,Pregnancy,Teh Second Baby
51 Comments Add your own
1. Nicole | January 11th, 2011 at 11:50 pm
I can only speak from my own experience, which was #1, I had hyperemisis (IV for fluids and on meds), and with #2, did not puke AT ALL. #1? A girl. #2? A boy.
2. Betsy | January 12th, 2011 at 12:10 am
I had ZERO classic pregnancy symptoms my first trimester with my son. Never puked, no sore boobs, nothing. I was constantly worried something was wrong because I felt completely normal. It took us a long time (and IVF) to get pregnant, so I reasoned that it was karmic payback for all the bullshit we went through just to get pregnant. Or you know, just luck. I’m glad you’re feeling well. Congrats!
3. kathleen | January 12th, 2011 at 12:34 am
umm, i felt excited for your pregnancy before- but seeing that picture of sam?? yes– well, you have the cutest kid ever, and it would be a shame if you didn’t make more. that photo is adorable!
4. jonniker | January 12th, 2011 at 12:44 am
HA! Yes, but Nicole for every one of YOUR stories there are the same stories of same-sex babies! AHH! I think it is JUST DUMB LUCK.
5. Jennie | January 12th, 2011 at 1:09 am
We were in a babysitter bind for this weekend and Mike said, in all seriousness, “We should ask Jonna and Adam.” And I got very quiet and he said, “Oh, shit, I forgot they don’t live here.”
I don’t know why I decided now was the time to tell you this, but there you are!
Girl, boy, he/she is just the luckiest. (But, just in case, I have a nice pile of Kyle’s cutest clothes just waiting for the call. Although, hey, some of them will work for a girl too. Tomboy!)
6. page | January 12th, 2011 at 1:19 am
Gosh, isn’t she the cutest? I love her expressions. And I am SO GLAD that you are feeling well so far. I hope it continues! XO
7. ellbee | January 12th, 2011 at 3:58 am
Yay! I wish I had some sort of useless-to-you trivia, but having only been pregnant once, I can
8. ellbee | January 12th, 2011 at 4:05 am
Arg. Hate my phone. ANYway, I can’t help much with analysing symptoms. But I can help with “grok”, b/c I’m a raging science fiction and Heinlein buff. To grok something is to understand it so completely, you’ve absorbed the idea into yourself.
Roughly.
…I’m going to go now and stop spreading my nerd around…
9. Giselle | January 12th, 2011 at 6:53 am
I had a boy and a girl…very different morning sickness experiences. So when I was pregnant with the 3rd, I had a very good guess which type of baby it was based on my level of sickness…and I was right.
Those extra estrogens were killer on my system. I’m betting boy for you! And I have a 50/50 chance of being right. So I can continue on with my (probably bogus) theory! Woo-hoo! Good odds.
10. jonniker | January 12th, 2011 at 8:03 am
Elbee, in this case, that’s not what it is, apparently. It is some kind of primal mascot, I think. For the uh, diet. I THINK. (I did some late-night Googling when I couldn’t sleep.)
11. Aylin | January 12th, 2011 at 8:12 am
Congratulations! I am due August 17th (with my first) and it’s SO nice to be able to follow along with you!
12. Ris | January 12th, 2011 at 10:20 am
Congratulations! That’s so exciting! Glad you’re feeling better this time around.
13. AndreAnna | January 12th, 2011 at 10:39 am
Oh, here I go: “Grok” is name for the the embodiment and personification of the “Primal Man” coined by Mark Sisson in his book “The Primal Blueprint”. In this book, he lays out a way of life (diet and exercise) that mimic the evolutionaly way our bodies were meant to thrive. This includes eschewing grains and refined sugars since basically we are not biologically designed to digest them and instead focuses on foods like meat, vegetables, saturdated fats (which surprise! are actually good), nuts and seeds.
This “primal” diet is similar to the “paleo” diet started by Loren Cordain and most recently gaining the spotlight under Robb Wolf. However, the main differences is that in the “paleo” diet, diary and legumes are disallowed as well.
Most recently, the movement has almost become dogmatic in essence and thus undermines the very movement it was trying to cause.
Obviously you know me well enough to know I’m huge into nutrition and fitness but don’t take my principles to the level of religious dogma or condescension, though it is very, very rampant with this way of eating.
That all being said, I now have to go cry in the corner because I am just *SURE* it was me sharing those recipes in your Google Reader. I’m sorry! I didn’t meant to make you puke-a-rific! Really! Can I mail you some brownies?!?
Grain-free, of course.
:snicker:
14. Kristine | January 12th, 2011 at 10:46 am
Absolutely dead from cute. She is breathtakingly gorgeous.
Maybe the “new” pregnancy means you’re having a boy this time! Or, you know, maybe not! My two were different only in comfort level (second was way more annoying) and cravings. But I’ve definitely heard of this kind of thing before. The body is weird.
Either way, I’m excited for you. The found that the best thing about pregnancy #2 is that there’s less of that “JUST YOU WAIT” bullshit. Because, HI, yeah. I KNOW.
15. jonniker | January 12th, 2011 at 10:49 am
AHAHAHA, AndreAnna, it’s not just you, I SWEAR. The primal-whatever diet is RAMPANT among my Google contact list. But besides those people, I am friends with a lot of foodies. Which I LOVE. I mean, I’ve loved getting a ton of recipes in my reader, be they primal or not or whoever. But that’s apparently easier to swallow when I’m not pregnant.
16. Holly | January 12th, 2011 at 12:02 pm
Ok I really did just die from the cute — Sam’s got that baby-supermodel-aloof face going that is probably worth millions. I think Tyra would say she was “smizing”
Anyway, I can’t even imagine what would happen if I was pregnant since I read a ton of food blogs. I’m highly suggestive now, if I was feeling super nauseated I may just have to shitcan my Reader.
PS — Congrats! I never got around to commenting on the announcement post. YAY!
17. Kristabella | January 12th, 2011 at 12:10 pm
You must be so glad you moved away from the Fry Daddy guy, this pregnancy, huh?
18. amandapm | January 12th, 2011 at 12:32 pm
(a.) Belated congrats! To you and your whole family. (b.) Sam’s expression is priceless as per usual. (c) So…if you’re not feeling nauseated or anything this time around, can I go ahead and bust out the Fry Baby? ‘Cause I am dying for a batch – or ten – of home-fried chicken!!!!!
19. -R- | January 12th, 2011 at 12:39 pm
I barfed A LOT through both pregnancies, and one is a boy, and the other is allegedly going to be a girl. So, like you said, who knows?! I am jealous that you are feeling well and am also happy for you.
20. agirlandaboy | January 12th, 2011 at 12:45 pm
I keep thinking GIRL GIRL GIRL for you. Not sure why, as I certainly can’t even pretend to have special powers of gender prediction, but, I don’t know, I just see Sam as a big sister to a little sister.
21. jonniker | January 12th, 2011 at 12:57 pm
The fact that y’all are remembering the Fry Daddy incident is making me want to come over to all of your houses and hug you as tightly as you’ve ever been hugged.
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23. chirky | January 12th, 2011 at 2:05 pm
Dying from THE CUTE. Thanks for posting a photo. I’m pretending as though that was *especially for me*.
24. Christine | January 12th, 2011 at 4:16 pm
Oh gosh she is so so cute. And her eyes! I die.
I have no babies and won’t for a while yet (maybe not til my MIL keels over dead, in fact) so I’ll just say I’ve got nothing on the pregnancy front. Bodies are weird. That is all.
25. Katy | January 12th, 2011 at 8:30 pm
Boy! I tend to think of less/no morning sickness as boys. I realize this is complete garbage with no scientific proof, but I’m sticking with it.
And yes, I’m dead from the cuteness.
26. kakaty | January 12th, 2011 at 10:30 pm
It’s so funny because as soon as I read your announcement post I thought it’s a boy – I have no idea why. And now I’m just reaffirmed in my guess. And I’ll have you know that I guessed Jess (duwaxloolu) was having a boy so I’m all high one the single correct guess in my lifetime.
I think I saw on twitter that you will be finding out the gender, right? Because while we did one pregnancy of not finding out and one of finding out I get all irritated when other people wait. Because obviously you’re pregnant for my entertainment, right?
And damn, you’ve got a cute kid.
27. Megan | January 13th, 2011 at 12:03 am
I only think boy b/c Sam & Lila get along so well, and neither of them are very “delicate” or girly. And I love the idea of Sam being all “GET OFF MAH TOYS!!” to her little brother. And b/c I want a boy in our little group. I still want to know names.
28. chelsea | January 13th, 2011 at 6:56 am
Congrats! Very happy for you and your family
29. Molly | January 13th, 2011 at 10:19 am
Congrats on #2!
With my first pregnancy (boy) I was never sick and actually felt great the whole time (except for being so very tired). I’m now 20 weeks along and this pregnancy has been so different! I suffered from round the clock nausea the first 6 weeks, my skin has been terrorized and I have extreme crankiness that I never had the first time around. The verdict? Another boy! They always say that each pregnancy is different…
30. seedpearls | January 13th, 2011 at 12:04 pm
I feel almost bad saying it but I loved being pregnant, was never sick, never overweight, never any stretch marks, onlty times boobs were sore was two days when milk came in. This is probably why I did it five times…
31. seedpearls | January 13th, 2011 at 12:05 pm
Oh yes, and CONGRATULATIONS. I hope everything goes wonderfully well and you have another healthy happy baby
32. Angella | January 13th, 2011 at 1:38 pm
I go offline for a week and when I come back, you’re pregnant! Congratulations! Excited to see who you’re growing in there.
33. Swistle | January 13th, 2011 at 8:24 pm
What a GORGEOUS photo/child!
34. alimartell | January 13th, 2011 at 8:27 pm
I totally think you are having a girl, by the way.
Also, my first two pregnancies were practically identical. I’m not even kidding. I just assumed Josh was a girl because it was the same. Carried the same, same cravings, same just everything. lo and behold, the girl came out with a wiener.
my third pregnancy? COMPLETELY different. And it was a girl.
Go figure.
35. Leigh | January 14th, 2011 at 10:02 am
I’m so happy for you! You are such a good mom. Also, I bet we (your readers) will get lots of great stories out of this!
36. anne nahm | January 14th, 2011 at 10:47 am
You are ten shades of cute and that picture? Adorable! Happy delurking day!
37. Sarahviz | January 14th, 2011 at 11:03 am
Congrats, you!
I had 3 totally different pregnancies. And 3 boys. So there’s that.
38. Danell | January 14th, 2011 at 2:21 pm
Super cute, with her smoochable little pillow lips.
My experience (to continue on the “you just never know” track): hated both pregnancies with a ridiculous intensity despite a complete lack of vomiting or any other measurable complications during either one…results were two kids that are the absolute opposites. My first was a boy who slept through the night by 4 weeks home from the hospital, only fussed when he had a “need” and is quiet and gentle and a people pleaser. He is 5 now and will still take a 3 hour nap a day. My second-a non sleeping (STILL) screaming screamer girl who SCREAMS ALLTHETIME. I don’t know…See? Two similar pregnancies, yet I still think WTF did I do wrong the second time around to MAKE HER LIKE THIS?
39. Maya(Violet) | January 14th, 2011 at 2:40 pm
She’s SOOOO beautiful! That picture…those amber eyes, the perfect pink pouty lips….the ‘tude…I LOVE IT! Having only had the no-go pregnancy, I have nothing to add except I felt great other than if I looked/smelt/thought about beer. Still gives me the shudders, a little. I think…either way s/he will be a cutie pie and very loved by all!
40. kris | January 16th, 2011 at 12:07 pm
Late to the party and am hoping congratulations are still welcome! (Also, a squee sent up the east coast, which is not nearly as gross as it sounds.)
Also – AND FELLOW READERS I AM NOT IMPLYING THAT THIS IS IMPORTANT – but does Sam not have eyebrows all adult women would die for? AGAIN, NOT SAYING CHILDREN NEED PRETTY EYEBROWS.
41. samantha Jo Campen | January 16th, 2011 at 3:32 pm
Please tell me she has lip gloss or something on because her lips are TOO FRIGGIN’ PERFECT in that picture. I mean really.
(And I totally know you’re not all Toddlers and Tiaras so the guess on the gloss is a negatory but seriously, I could not stop staring at her lips)
42. Angela | January 16th, 2011 at 6:35 pm
Delurking to say, “congratulations”!
43. Snuggle Wasteland | January 16th, 2011 at 7:40 pm
She is too adorable! Congrats on the new baby!
For what it’s worth I was so preggo symptom free with my 2nd I didn’t know he was on the way till I was 6 weeks along. I wondered why my pants were getting so tight in the waist…
44. julie | January 17th, 2011 at 12:58 pm
She’s gorgeous.
Don’t stress about the nausea, or lack thereof. Just like the kids, every pregnancy is different.
xoxo
45. Lindsay | January 17th, 2011 at 11:28 pm
Very sorry for all the terrible news during what should be a happy, hopeful time. Thinking of you and your family.
46. Mauigirl | January 18th, 2011 at 6:19 pm
Congratulations! Am just catching up here and am so excited for you. And although I haven’t experienced it, I have heard that every pregnancy is different – and maybe it is a boy this time. Who knows? But am happy you’re not sick.
That is the most beautiful picture EVER. What a doll Sam is.
47. Mauigirl | January 18th, 2011 at 7:55 pm
Oh Jonna, I’m so sorry and wish I could erase my comment so as not to upset you. Someone was kind enough to let me know what happened as I am not much of a Twitter person and hadn’t read about it. I’m so very sorry and have you and Adam in my thoughts.
48. Tracey - JustAnotherMommyBlog | January 19th, 2011 at 9:05 pm
Congratulations!!
49. Kristina | January 20th, 2011 at 12:08 pm
Jonna, I heard about what happened on Twitter and I just….lord, I hope this doesn’t sound creepy, but I cried when I saw your tweets. You don’t know me, and obviously I don’t really know you aside from reading here, but you ALWAYS make me smile with your posts and I just wish there was a way for me to bring you a smile while you deal with all of this. I’m just so sorry it happened to you and please know that you have many prayers and positive thoughts coming your way.
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