Age griping and housekeeping; don’t get too excited
May 10th, 2011
We hung out with our friends today, and there was a minor spat, as two-year-olds are wont to engage in (HAAA), and I don’t even know how my mind went from Gracie being annoyed because Sam blew up in her face (mind you, the opposite has happened HUNDREDS OF TIMES) to realizing that one day, these friends that I chose for Sam might not want to be her friends or vice versa, or even if they DO, she will have friends she chose ON HER OWN, and God, these are things I spend time fretting about. It’s all very Sunrise, Sunset in my mind, but when I write it out, it’s the equivalent of a no-shitter Nerf bat to the face. Yes, people grow up, whatever, but I somehow thought my child would be immune, like Benjamin Button. Err, kind of.
But what it comes down to is her inevitable freedom of choice, I guess, and from my perspective, watching her grow into her own person; someone who does things and thinks things that are completely separate from me. It’s crazy that she will some day have secrets from me. Secrets! From me! At this point, the kid doesn’t even fart without my full knowledge of exactly what went IN to that particular cocktail of methane, so this seems completely impossible..
It sucks, this growing-up thing. Well, except for the fact that my God, when you have a child who can TELL you what she needs vs one who just YELLS VAGUELY IN YOUR DIRECTION, there’s really no comparison. No, I would not trade two-year-old Sam for infant Sam, although I MIGHT have traded 18-month-old Sam for infant Sam, because, if no one has told you yet, 18 months is kind of a shitty age.
Anyway, I really came here for one purpose, and that’s to ask you, yet again, if anyone is still interested in an online book club. The Book Lushes died last summer and then was OVERRUN WITH UNMANAGEABLE SPAM ATTACKS (Don’t look now! I’m still cleaning it up!) and I’m working on the latter issue, provided people are still interested. Honestly, I thought we’d died for good, but then more and more people started asking, and I thought, well, HM. LET US ASK. I’m always reading and always willing to participate, so if anyone else is, you let me know in the comments, just to get a wee idea (or you can send me an email) and I’ll figure something out.
So! Book club or no? Tell me. I won’t be offended either way. Probably because I’ll still be here reading It until KINGDOM COME. It’s like chipping away at a MOUNTAIN.
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1. Therese | May 10th, 2011 at 8:40 pm
I enjoyed the Book Lushes and being introduced to new books. I never participated in discussion because I was always behind in getting the books from the library but I did enjoy the reading. My goal was to one day be timely…all that to say, I like the online book club concept.
2. H | May 10th, 2011 at 8:48 pm
I’m interested! I loved the flexibility of an online book club.
3. Di | May 10th, 2011 at 8:52 pm
I’m currently dealing with a 20-month old and a thisclose to four year old. I can’t decide which is worse – the impotent rage of the preverbal toddler, or the vaguely pubescent ragings of the preschooler. (When they both get going, I lock myself in the bathroom with my Nook, and pick up the pieces later.)
So, in other words, yes, an online book club would be lovely, thanks!
4. Dawn K. | May 10th, 2011 at 8:58 pm
I love book clubs, but don’t have any IRL friends that are ever interested. I’d be up to join. I don’t have a blog though, does that matter?
5. cck | May 10th, 2011 at 8:59 pm
An online book club? I can show up in pajamas without judgment and I don’t have to bring snacks? I would love to be in.
6. SwingCheese | May 10th, 2011 at 9:12 pm
I would be interested in doing the online book club again. (I actually wandered by the site a couple weeks ago, just to see if I’d missed something and was saddened by the spam.) I need new things to read. I’m stuck in a Sookie Stackhouse loop and I can’t seem to find my way out of it.
7. Tara | May 10th, 2011 at 9:22 pm
Yes, book club, yes!
8. Lara | May 10th, 2011 at 10:19 pm
Me, me, me, me! I was just thinking the other day that I missed the Book Lush club. I am (STILL, yes, STILL) working on the Passage and I already know I’ll want to discuss it with you (and others). And I’d be willing to help if it ever becomes a pain to manage or anything.
I’m not sure if I’ve read It. I read a LOT of Stephen King back in the day, but don’t remember that one other than I know about the creepy ass clown in it. I think you should try the Stand next. I’d re-read it for a book club even (it’s been probably (OH GOD) 15 – 20 years since I read it).
9. Lara | May 10th, 2011 at 10:20 pm
HA that’s “creepy-ass clown” and not “creepy ass-clown.” Just so we’re clear.
10. Kristina | May 10th, 2011 at 10:23 pm
I am totally in. I would love to have a book club IRL, but am lacking the time or friends in my area to do so. So yes!
Also, kind of unrelated but not. I’m reading The Talisman by Stephen King now (I read Bag of Bones right around the time you did and it got me started on a SK kick) and it’s pretty good. Disturbing and weird, but pretty good.
11. Erin | May 10th, 2011 at 10:23 pm
Yes to the book club rising from the ashes! I joined Book Lushes just weeks before it died and would love to have a second chance.
My daughter’s first birthday last week has me in full on sunrise, sunset mode these days. I’m full of “She’s not a BABY any more” moments, even though she totally is.
12. Elsha | May 10th, 2011 at 10:44 pm
First of all, I am SO with you about 18 month olds. We’re coming up on 18 months round two and I am just remembering all the things I hated the first time around. BLAH.
I’m interested in the book club. Who doesn’t need to belong to a third book club? I know I do.
13. Melissa H | May 10th, 2011 at 10:54 pm
Relatively new here so I’m not sure what Book Lush was/is (I won’t peek) but I am interested in something bookish online. I’m always looking for recommendations at the very least…
14. Brenna | May 10th, 2011 at 11:55 pm
My kids are (almost)12, 9, and 3, and the older two having friends that I didn’t choose is something I still struggle with almost daily. There are some rotten kids out there!
As far as them not wanting to be friends with my friends’ kids… it hasn’t happened yet. I think since they’ve all grown up together, they view each other more as siblings. And even on a bad day, you tolerate siblings.
P.S. Yes for book club!
15. Ginger | May 11th, 2011 at 12:49 am
19 months has been kicking my ass. So you say 2 is…less painful? Because it seems doable that I can hold on until 2ish before sending him back.
Also, I love the idea of the book club. I’m looking for as many reasons as I can to fulfill my book a month (sob, how the mighty have fallen) goal.
16. Lynnette | May 11th, 2011 at 1:21 am
I’ve been feeling sort of melancholy about something similar – we live across the street from an elementary school and pass the children playing everyday. I like to watch the boy-girl dynamics because they are JUST SO OBVIOUS about it. Basically, boys are playing in large groups and acting like verbal lemurs, and girls are in small groups and already plotting about boys. It’s pretty hilarious.
Then one of my dear friends came over with her little boy, and I thought about how all my friends have boys. My little girl is a great match for them now, but when does that change? What will be the point at which my girl doesn’t want to play with stupid boys, or vice versa? So sad.
I periodically check the Booklushes, even just to keep up with the latest in cheap medical advances. If it was revived, I would participate.
17. Giselle | May 11th, 2011 at 5:28 am
I never participated before, but with a move looming, I’d love to ensure that I have a book club to participate with. Also, you mentioned that you read The Passage, so I’m willing to join up with anyone who has that kind of book taste. Althought I really really liked The Historian. Does that automatically disqualify me from joining? I also read her second book, The Swan Thief and liked that. Is there such a thing as virtual stoning a person?
18. Linda | May 11th, 2011 at 6:49 am
My twins are turning 7 this month and I’ll tell you that the independence happens slowly, so you have time to adjust to it. First they go to the bathroom and wipe their butts without supervision, then they can play outside without you hovering, then they’re gone all day in school without you. Slowly, slowly they have these experiences where you are not involved.
At the beginning (preschool for me), I wanted to know EXACTLY what happened EVERY MINUTE at preschool. Obviously, I can’t do that. That experience forced me to be okay with them having their own lives where I DON’T know what they ate to make that fart smell. Now they can choose what to share with me and our relationship is changing slightly. It’s weird, but normal at the same time and I get glimpses of what our adult mother-daughter relationships will be and those make me look forward to those years.
19. Caitlin | May 11th, 2011 at 7:36 am
Book club yay!!
20. Steph | May 11th, 2011 at 7:41 am
Yes to a book club!
21. LizScott | May 11th, 2011 at 7:57 am
IN for book club! I joined book lushes right before it died and was sad to miss it.
Re kids independence: I’m a stepmom, so I missed the baby years, but oh god, middle school. Not because of the attitude- that’s actually kind of a non factor ( pro tip: make a drinking game out of the eye rolling and you’ll be fine), but because of the constant reliving. Oh GOD do I remember fighting with my friends in 6th grade and having it be the end of the world, and how every day is fraught with such peril. And watching step kid go through it brings me back there, over and over, except its like watching a train wreck that you cant stop in anyway; I remember what it was like, and would kill to make it easier for her, and I CAN’T and it’s HORRIBLE
22. LizScott | May 11th, 2011 at 8:00 am
Gah, got cut off: anyway, my point is that it’s this weird feeling of being a parent and having so much control over physical space and conditions and safety and then realizing that no amount experience or desire to shield will stop this kid from going through it all her own way, with no assistance, and all you do is observe and try to guide. It and it totally sucks.
23. the grumbles | May 11th, 2011 at 8:03 am
…can i just say how much better it makes me feel to hear you say that 18 months is tough? because the screaming over here, GOD, the screaming. i didn’t know if this was normal or if my normally pleasant kid was turning into a character from true blood.
i think i’d be in for books. i wasn’t interested last year but this time around it sounds fun. as long as i can fit it in around starting game of thrones.
24. Shelly | May 11th, 2011 at 8:03 am
I really enjoyed the Book Lushes, even though I didn’t participate in the discussions very much. I did get LOTS of great book recommendations, many of which I have LOVED. So I would definitely be interested in a revival. (And I’ll make more of an effort to participate this time!)
25. heidi | May 11th, 2011 at 8:52 am
Yes, yes, yes!
26. Sue | May 11th, 2011 at 8:59 am
Book club sounds great!
27. Deanna | May 11th, 2011 at 9:16 am
I wouldn’t mind a return of the Book Lushes. I enjoyed hearing others’ reviews and opinions; there was some good general discussion, I thought. I’m like you…I will be reading regardless, and a place to talk about it would be nice.
28. Morrigan | May 11th, 2011 at 9:48 am
First she tells us not to get excited, then she dangles Book Lushes in front of us. These things are incompatible. Count me in!
29. PinkieBling | May 11th, 2011 at 9:58 am
Yes, Book Lushes, please! I’m a new reader but I’ve been all through the archives (don’t judge!) and I’ve seen Book Lushes and wanted to join but it did seem dead and I was SAD. (Terrible sentence structure there, I know.)
Parenting is a ridiculous business, from what I can tell. Here, have this helpless little creature and be completely responsible for its health, safety, and overall well-being. Love it like you’ve never loved anything before. The urge to protect it will become part of your marrow. Oh, and also? Teach it everything it will need to know so it can LEAVE YOU and go out on its OWN where you will have NO CONTROL over what happens to it.
I mean, seriously, what IS that??
30. Jenn | May 11th, 2011 at 11:00 am
Yes to Book Lushes!
31. vhmprincess | May 11th, 2011 at 11:22 am
yes, I’d love to try one!!
32. Kerri Anne | May 11th, 2011 at 11:31 am
I feel like you’re in my brain with this post because just yesterday I found myself thinking, “What ever happened to Book Lushes? I still want to be book lushy!”
All of that to say: Totally interested.
(Let’s start with Dracula! Ha ha ha.)
33. Megan | May 11th, 2011 at 11:33 am
When my kids were younger, some other moms and I were talking about poop (as you do) and one of the more veteran moms (she had five kids…all boys) mentioned that she didn’t even know if or when her kids pooped anymore. I could NOT GET OVER THIS! This was such a major part of my day…I planned outings around this event. Alas…now a days for two out of three I have no idea unless they call me in for a viewing (fun!) or a problem (ick!).
34. Josefina | May 11th, 2011 at 11:35 am
I was hoping the Book Lushes topic would come up. I’m still in.
35. alimartell | May 11th, 2011 at 11:37 am
I have been reading like a damn fool recently…so I am ALL for this. YES!
36. Kristen | May 11th, 2011 at 11:37 am
Yes, I’d totally love to give Book Lushes a whirl. Definitely.
37. Delicia | May 11th, 2011 at 11:38 am
I’d love to be part of a book club! What kinds of books (genre) are read?
38. Sam | May 11th, 2011 at 11:41 am
Oh, yes. Would love for the Book Lushes to start back. An online group is so great because you don’t have to read the book if you don’t think you’d like it. I guess you could do that in real life, too. Anyway, it’s a fun way to meet people online. I liked it! Even though I never did finish The Book Thief, what is wrong with me?
39. McKenzie | May 11th, 2011 at 11:57 am
Yes Please!!! The Book Lushes made me read books I never would have read on my own. And I loved skimming through thread for other suggestions!
40. Ryan Carlton | May 11th, 2011 at 12:22 pm
I’m in! Sounds perfect, I need to branch out of my all non-fiction all the time reading habits!
41. Amy {frugan} | May 11th, 2011 at 12:44 pm
I’m in.
42. Ris | May 11th, 2011 at 1:09 pm
Book Lushes sounds GREAT! I’m totally in.
43. Amelia | May 11th, 2011 at 1:34 pm
I am in!
44. MaggyD | May 11th, 2011 at 1:37 pm
I’m in for book club!
45. Artemisia | May 11th, 2011 at 1:52 pm
Funny, I was just thinking about Book Lushes the other day but didn’t want to bug you.
I am totally up for an online book club, but hate to have all of the logistics and whatnot fall solely on you.
Would doing it through Goodreads make it any easier? Regardless, I am in whole-heartedly and would not mind picking up some of the, um, administrative burden, such as it is.
46. Artemisia | May 11th, 2011 at 1:52 pm
Also – I can’t wrap my head around that the little ones turn into their very own people. Wha?
47. ellyn | May 11th, 2011 at 1:59 pm
Count me in for the book club!
48. Renee from GA | May 11th, 2011 at 2:52 pm
I’d like to try an online book club. Apparantly my real life one isn’t meeting all my book club needs…
49. Renee from GA | May 11th, 2011 at 2:53 pm
PS to advertiser: Hidden Valley Ranch WE GET IT ALREADY. I am ready to move on to another salad dressing!
50. lindsayc | May 11th, 2011 at 4:05 pm
Yes please, more book lushes!
51. mar | May 11th, 2011 at 4:14 pm
It’s funny because I just posted on a link of Book Lushes wondering if it was still active. Besides the activity of spammers and whatnot.
52. Jessica | May 11th, 2011 at 5:13 pm
I’d be up for an online book club, if you’ll have me
53. Denora | May 11th, 2011 at 5:13 pm
Yay Book Lushes! I joined last year, but it was only around long enough for me to read 1 book and a lot of spam. So yes! Bring it back! I’m totally in.
54. Cheryl | May 11th, 2011 at 7:21 pm
I’ve never been involved in a book club, but I think I’d love it. I need to be “force” to read some different books.
55. Heather R | May 11th, 2011 at 7:49 pm
OMG! 18 months is my faaaavorite age so far!!! I have a 4 year old and a just-turned-2 year old. My favorite age range for both of my kids is 12 -24 months. I like the developmental milestones of that age and the cuteness and the innocence. Like, if my kids at 18 months were misbehaving, it wasn’t really “on purpose” and they didn’t talk back or have attitude. My older one was a handful from 2 through the present and it just keeps getting harder with her, to be honest. I mean, at 4, she has said things like, “I don’t want you to be my mom anymore! Go away! Stop talking to me!!!” She is like a little teenager. 18 months was a walk in the park compared to ages 3 and 4!!
56. velocibadgergirl | May 11th, 2011 at 10:48 pm
I definitely want to give Book Lushes another shot!
57. Ali V | May 12th, 2011 at 3:16 pm
I would be interested in trying again
I need some fresh ideas for what to read. I’m stuck in an Agatha Christie holding pattern.
58. Laura @ the Diniwilks | May 12th, 2011 at 3:24 pm
YES, YES, YES, more book lushes, please! I didn’t have time to participate in the online discussions, but I made time for reading the books. My real life book club has also died out, and I am bored with my own choices and need someone to make these decisions for me.
59. Diane | May 12th, 2011 at 7:59 pm
Yes to Book Lushes please! I was wondering if it was going to start again and I am coming up out the newborn haze so perfect timing!
60. stephanie | May 12th, 2011 at 9:50 pm
I signed up for Book Lushes last time, but it was just at a point where I was crazy busy with a new job and wedding planning. I’ve actually been reading a lot more lately (well, for me), so I’d like to give it a go again.
61. Erin | May 14th, 2011 at 9:04 pm
Yes – book club – YES!!!
62. Becky | May 16th, 2011 at 10:23 pm
Yes, please, re: Book Lushes! Also, I’m kind of scared, because my son is 15 months, and he is becoming a little @#$. An adorable, hysterical little #@$, but one none the less.
63. Erin | May 23rd, 2011 at 8:16 am
Yes!!! Book club! I need some new ideas on what to read, and some fabulous women to discuss with.
64. Birkenstock Outlet | May 27th, 2011 at 10:25 pm
I need some new ideas on what to read,
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